what do you mean when you "jumped the wrong wire?" were you jumpstarting it and crossed + and - . wiring is not as scary as you're making it. there is always cause and effect. if you're blowing fuses what changes when the fuse blows. do you turn on lights, radio, step on the brakes, or turn on the heater? it could just be a wire that has rubbed through its shielding and that can be a little harder to find. but is it blows the same fuse over and over then you know which wires to trace.
the vac line of the tranny might just be a breather vent. where does it go to? what tranny do you have?